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Pam Wade's avatar

I absolutely love what you have written, but I think your words would be appropriate for everyone, not just men. I am quite comfortable substituting “men” with “people” or “adults”. In other words, men are not the only ones who need to be held accountable for their actions. Thanks so much for your words and all the work you do.

Nick Paro's avatar

Pam, I totally agree and appreciate the broadening of scope — and men need to hear it directly right now. I’m focusing in on us men because it’s an us problem that we need to fix!

Mary Lummis's avatar

Thank you Nick. Sounds like you are holding yourself to your own standards and I appreciate this.

Freddie Thompson's avatar

This is a good read. I think it goes deeper though - exchange 'masculinity' for 'humanity'.

Nick Paro's avatar

True — I think this discussion crosses all of the gender bounds — and the interview series and following articles will show that.

Jennifer Autry, PMHNP-BC's avatar

In mental health this is known as external locus of control.

Safrianna Lughna 🦄🌈✨'s avatar

Accountability is key! I love that you are directly bringing this conversation to men and centering men in the conversation, and that these principles apply to all of humanity simultaneously. Gosh, if men lead with that consistently? Imagine the abundant world we would all build together! 💖 I believe we can do this.

David Travasos's avatar

Good post!

Monica M 🇨🇦's avatar

So appreciate the work you are doing, Nick! Your Intelligent Masculinity series holds such value for all of humanity. A lovely bonus to meet other men like yourself who are willing to do the work it takes for this cultural shift.

BLONDE LEGALLY 🙋🏼‍♀️🧩🔍⚖️✨🦋's avatar

This is excellent

I appreciate others who’ve suggested the causality, principles, characteristics can and should be applied to both male and female; however, I value how you wrote this from the perspective of a man to men. You don’t isolate men as 💯 responsible, accountable, etc. for the entirety of the universe. You merely, yet in an almost poetic manner, crafted a narrative in the form of a letter or correspondence containing concerns, suggestions and hope with a bearing on masculinity. It’s not a gotcha rant. It’s not a pointing of fingers. To categorize it as such misses the point

Lainey Wolff's avatar

Wow. You are so right. Well said, well written and truth. I'm speechless and this 78 year old woman is almost never is speechless. Thank you!

Kevin 🇨🇦's avatar

Great column. Definitely some food for thought there. Responsibly unquestionably requires accountability.

Sue Henger's avatar

I’d like to see your syllabus offered to the Life After Hate organization.