WARNING: You may not like this reply, but as a former child victim, and an advocate for others with similar experiences I feel obliged to express my concern:
I felt sick when I realized that this poem uses a euphemism that a thirteen year olds rapists used while they were brutalizing her tiny body. (It also refers to one specific victim, which is so violating). She was a child, guys. Think about how that child would feel having this shown all over the internet- because there is a place inside of her mind that will always remain the exact developmental age she was when this happened to her. That piece of her needs to be protected and quite honestly, this cute little limerick could be horribly painful. I speak with personal knowledge. Please understand, I know you mean no harm. I’m just asking you to consider the children they were and what they live with every single day. We have a huge responsibility to protect them as much as possible. If we don’t, who will?
Here’s hoping there is a hell set up just for DT and all of the monsters who took/take part in the horrific abuse of our children.
I truly appreciate the response, and I do not intend any harm with this or any of my other poems on this subject—knowing the sensitivity that can come with this topic itself and for what those girls went through. I’ll never be able to understand the trauma inflicted on them, or other victims.
I do also know that this is a subject that has become mainstreamed in a way I am entirely uncomfortable and incredibly disturbed by. I have kids and I have to confront it as I can and in a voice I know — music and rhyme. I also know there is a reason I will never mention a victim by name — that is a line that can’t be crossed as it puts a target on the innocent. I know it’s something that has to be confronted. If it isn’t, those perpetrating these crimes will continue.
Thank you for not taking offense. My story is much like the girl I referenced, only I was 15 at the time. In the 80’s everyone - adults in general but parents, doctors, police officers even counselors would say things like “why didn’t you run”. A lot of that continues today. The reason I felt I needed to respond is because most people don’t know how a child victim/survivor might feel. The transcripts are now all over the internet. Her name- the 13 yo, is a pseudonym, so anyone who sees it will remember the words they used but not know who she is- which I am very grateful for. My real concern is for her. Seeing those specific words could bring her right back to that place, that confusion and horror. Do you know which piece I’m referring to?
I know others will use it, but they are not people she would likely pay attention to. Your voice would matter. That’s why I reached out. Because I really believe you care about all of these victims. I hope I was clearer this time in my explanation. Being a parent in these times has got to be unsettling, if not terrifying. Our girls in particular are in very serious danger. There are states lowering the age of marriage and making it permissible for parents to choose what man the child would marry. Keep your kids close. Always ask them what they feel about the grown ups in their lives. You can do this by making it a “game” of “who makes you happy this week?” “Who do you like today?” And then “who are you mad at” or “who don’t you like this week?” And always follow it up with “why/why not?” And then just listen. And no matter what, if your child says they don’t like someone and you don’t like their answer as to why, believe them- and tell them they don’t have to see that person ever again. That last part is extremely important. Without the acknowledgment of their experience, much more damage can happen. You are the one they trust. You need to keep that as safe as possible. I’ve worked with many parents and I’ve never been thanked so much as for that last piece of advice. Hopefully you will never need to use it. But it may come in handy at some point for someone else as well. If you have questions or want to go over anything I’ve said, or anything you think I got wrong, please feel free to go through here, or dm. I appreciate you. Sincerely.
WARNING: You may not like this reply, but as a former child victim, and an advocate for others with similar experiences I feel obliged to express my concern:
I felt sick when I realized that this poem uses a euphemism that a thirteen year olds rapists used while they were brutalizing her tiny body. (It also refers to one specific victim, which is so violating). She was a child, guys. Think about how that child would feel having this shown all over the internet- because there is a place inside of her mind that will always remain the exact developmental age she was when this happened to her. That piece of her needs to be protected and quite honestly, this cute little limerick could be horribly painful. I speak with personal knowledge. Please understand, I know you mean no harm. I’m just asking you to consider the children they were and what they live with every single day. We have a huge responsibility to protect them as much as possible. If we don’t, who will?
Here’s hoping there is a hell set up just for DT and all of the monsters who took/take part in the horrific abuse of our children.
I truly appreciate the response, and I do not intend any harm with this or any of my other poems on this subject—knowing the sensitivity that can come with this topic itself and for what those girls went through. I’ll never be able to understand the trauma inflicted on them, or other victims.
I do also know that this is a subject that has become mainstreamed in a way I am entirely uncomfortable and incredibly disturbed by. I have kids and I have to confront it as I can and in a voice I know — music and rhyme. I also know there is a reason I will never mention a victim by name — that is a line that can’t be crossed as it puts a target on the innocent. I know it’s something that has to be confronted. If it isn’t, those perpetrating these crimes will continue.
Thank you for not taking offense. My story is much like the girl I referenced, only I was 15 at the time. In the 80’s everyone - adults in general but parents, doctors, police officers even counselors would say things like “why didn’t you run”. A lot of that continues today. The reason I felt I needed to respond is because most people don’t know how a child victim/survivor might feel. The transcripts are now all over the internet. Her name- the 13 yo, is a pseudonym, so anyone who sees it will remember the words they used but not know who she is- which I am very grateful for. My real concern is for her. Seeing those specific words could bring her right back to that place, that confusion and horror. Do you know which piece I’m referring to?
I know others will use it, but they are not people she would likely pay attention to. Your voice would matter. That’s why I reached out. Because I really believe you care about all of these victims. I hope I was clearer this time in my explanation. Being a parent in these times has got to be unsettling, if not terrifying. Our girls in particular are in very serious danger. There are states lowering the age of marriage and making it permissible for parents to choose what man the child would marry. Keep your kids close. Always ask them what they feel about the grown ups in their lives. You can do this by making it a “game” of “who makes you happy this week?” “Who do you like today?” And then “who are you mad at” or “who don’t you like this week?” And always follow it up with “why/why not?” And then just listen. And no matter what, if your child says they don’t like someone and you don’t like their answer as to why, believe them- and tell them they don’t have to see that person ever again. That last part is extremely important. Without the acknowledgment of their experience, much more damage can happen. You are the one they trust. You need to keep that as safe as possible. I’ve worked with many parents and I’ve never been thanked so much as for that last piece of advice. Hopefully you will never need to use it. But it may come in handy at some point for someone else as well. If you have questions or want to go over anything I’ve said, or anything you think I got wrong, please feel free to go through here, or dm. I appreciate you. Sincerely.
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